When my wife and I were engaged, we were challenged to come up with our expectations for marriage. We had no idea what married life would be like, but we were excited to experience it together. We established what expectations had and then formed some goals together to achieve the expectations we thought would be attainable and helpful. We did not go into this new stage of life with pessimism or such low expectations that we anticipated the worst. We carried excitement, optimism, and hope into our new life together, and this served us well as we navigated this new