Transitioning to college is an experience that uproots everything familiar: home, family, high school friends, and a church community. Amid this instability, it’s normal to feel lonely, even after a great night out or a fun social event. Those quiet moments can magnify feelings of loneliness, but they also provide an opportunity to reflect and seek deeper connections.
College is a pivotal time to either deepen faith or neglect it entirely. Moments of loneliness often reveal a “God-shaped hole” in our hearts—something only a relationship with Him can fill. While the world offers distractions like social events, achievements, or material things to temporarily fill this void, none of these satisfy permanently. Instead, turning to faith and spending intentional time with God can bring a profound sense of peace.
It’s important to remember that loneliness is not unique. Many students in dorms or apartments feel the same way. Yet, it’s tempting to retreat and hide those emotions. Breaking that cycle involves finding safe people to talk to, whether peers or mentors. Older students can play a crucial role by checking in on freshmen and offering guidance, creating a supportive environment where students feel valued and understood.
The Power of Community
Finding meaningful community in college can be challenging but essential. Start by praying for the right friendships, asking God to bring “light to find light”—friends who will encourage, support, and walk with you in faith. True friendships often deepen not only through shared joys but also through shared hardships. Being there for others in difficult moments builds trust and roots relationships in something lasting.
Consider the importance of choosing quality friends over quantity. Not every friendship will be a deep one, and that’s okay. Reflect on who would show up for you during a crisis, who would visit you in the hospital, or who you could call in a moment of need. These are the friendships worth investing in.
One mother shared with her daughters the value of good Christian friends. Her college experience taught her the hard way that not all friends are equipped to handle life’s challenges. When her family faced a crisis, her “fun friends” disappeared. That season was a turning point for her faith, showing her that Jesus is the one constant in life. It also highlighted the importance of seeking out friends who can walk with you through both joy and sorrow.
Steps to Build a Supportive Community
Pray First: Start by asking God to guide you toward the right people and opportunities to build genuine friendships.
Be Brave: Step out of your comfort zone, join groups, attend events, and introduce yourself to others.
Be Intentional: Invest time and effort into building relationships, especially during tough times.
Look for Mentors: Seek guidance from older students or mentors who have navigated these challenges before.
Be a Light: Support others who may also be feeling lonely. Your kindness could be the connection they need.
Loneliness and challenges in college are not just obstacles—they’re opportunities to grow in faith, build meaningful relationships, and discover the joy of relying on God. Embrace the journey, knowing that every step, even the hard ones, shapes your story for the better.
