Here’s something a lot of students don’t realize before college:
Finding community usually doesn’t just happen automatically.
In high school, your life is often structured for you. You see the same people every day, activities are built into your schedule, and friendships naturally form over time. College is different. There are opportunities everywhere — but it’s up to you to step into them.
That’s why one of the most important skills you can develop before college is initiative.
Initiative looks like:
- Going to an event even when you feel nervous
- Introducing yourself first
- Sitting with someone you don’t know
- Joining a club or ministry during the first few weeks
- Showing up a second time even if the first time felt awkward
- Asking questions instead of waiting for someone to approach you
The truth is, almost every freshman feels uncomfortable at first. Most students are hoping someone talks to them. Most students are trying to figure out where they fit too.
You do not have to become the loudest or most outgoing person in the room to build community in college. But you do need to be willing to take small steps before you feel completely confident.
Throughout this Campus Ministry Spotlight series, you’ll hear about different groups and communities available on college campuses. As you listen, remember this: the students who end up finding meaningful friendships and strong support systems are often the students willing to simply show up.
Your future community may be waiting on the other side of one small step of courage.
